New kind of sandwich
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- September
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I usually write about traditional sandwich-generation issues. But recently I found myself in the middle of a different kind of situation: a family feud.
Perhaps the word ‘feud’ is too strong. But there was an incident last week, at a family gathering, that has had a tremendous impact on everyone who was there. And I have found myself taking sides — much to the distress of the person against whom I am siding.
Cryptic enough for you? Sorry that I can’t be more forthcoming. But suffice it to say the explosion has had far-reaching effects and threatens to divide the family. I find it heartbreaking and I’m completely consumed with thoughts of what happened.
I have tried to be the peace maker, but it is tough convincing people that their behavior was wrong when they insist they are right. And nobody wants an apology that isn’t heartfelt.
Have you ever found yourself in the middle of a family feud? How do you prevent it from destroying relationships?
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Baby boomer Linda Lombroso was born in Queens and grew up in Port Washington. She began her journalism career at New York Magazine and Rolling Stone, and came back to the field after spending 10 years as a stay-at-home mother. Linda joined The Journal News in 1997 and has been a Life & Style writer since 2000. She has three children.
Been there, done that.. still living through it.
Sometimes there is no preventing if its something that has been boiling over for years it will be like a pressure cooker.
Sooner or later the guilty party will wisen up unless they are the eldest and think they walk on water..
Just deal, but just because they are family do not give up your principles for the sake of harmony. If you cant agree to disagree you just need to leave it..
Like I said.. I have always been caught in the middle.. until i had it. and let everyone know how I felt and this is where I stand now..
Good Luck.
Steve—You really summed it up. I suspect it was something that was stewing for years. The problem is the person who blew up is…well you guess who it is. It was an irrational tirade that insulted my whole family, including elderly relatives. And he refuses to call the hosts and apologize. So…it is a tough situation. Harder too because all the kids were there.
hmm kids being there is tough. but ya know, if its been brewing then it was a matter of time. give it a month or more.
it will either work out or not.. if you are in the mix maybe there’s hope
Been there, done that.. still living through it.
Sometimes there is no preventing if its something that has been boiling over for years it will be like a pressure cooker.
Sooner or later the guilty party will wisen up unless they are the eldest and think they walk on water..
Just deal, but just because they are family do not give up your principles for the sake of harmony. If you cant agree to disagree you just need to leave it..
Like I said.. I have always been caught in the middle.. until i had it. and let everyone know how I felt and this is where I stand now..
Good Luck.