Comments on: Midlife fling http://generations.lohudblogs.com/2009/07/02/midlife-fling/ Coping with aging parents, growing kids and everything in the middle Fri, 13 Nov 2009 03:18:34 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Glory Be http://generations.lohudblogs.com/2009/07/02/midlife-fling/comment-page-1/#comment-1190 Glory Be Mon, 13 Jul 2009 00:29:23 +0000 http://generations.lohudblogs.com/?p=1146#comment-1190 That was 70% of 100% of men and 50% of 100% of women, Steve. I agree that fantasizing is not cheating. However, I think once a spouse is confiding, entertaining and entertained by another, cheating is in full swing. And yes, a toss in the hay IS an ephemeral relationship outside of a committed relationship and it is cheating if you need to lie about it. I think we can safely identify flying to Argentina for the purpose of daily face-to-face "conversation" with his consort constitutes cheating. That was 70% of 100% of men and 50% of 100% of women, Steve.

I agree that fantasizing is not cheating. However, I think once a spouse is confiding, entertaining and entertained by another, cheating is in full swing. And yes, a toss in the hay IS an ephemeral relationship outside of a committed relationship and it is cheating if you need to lie about it.

I think we can safely identify flying to Argentina for the purpose of daily face-to-face “conversation” with his consort constitutes cheating.

]]> By: Steve C. http://generations.lohudblogs.com/2009/07/02/midlife-fling/comment-page-1/#comment-1189 Steve C. Tue, 07 Jul 2009 12:14:14 +0000 http://generations.lohudblogs.com/?p=1146#comment-1189 Ok Linda here goes: Well, it takes 2 to tango. The gal is just as wrong as the guy. If she was to believe this story about soul mate oh well. To go on public tv and say that when u are married with kids is just stoooopit (sic- on purpose) She should divorce him for being an @ss. On the flip side, women do this as well, but I find it intriguing that only the male stories get most of the play... Glory Be: as for your percentage... on 70 and 50 that adds up to 120.. ;-) Stats on cheating will always be skewed why? because the smart ones wont and shouldnt admit it. Now if love isnt involved and its just a toss in the hay, not that I would do it, BUT I dont think thats cheating. Cheating is giving your love and heart to someone else other than your spouse.. since he claims this gal is his soul mate, he cheated and there should be no repairing the dynamic. kick him to the curb to be with his soulmate. Oh and its not cheating if you fantasize about it either no matter how many women's mags ma say it is and drop the guy that you catch fantasizing about another woman. Because women do it too.. and in a heart beat if a super hunk/movie star/jock/whatever were to smile and wink, try and tell me you wouldnt get all hot and bothered and think in your head.. if he asks i'll say yes.. because you know you would.. same if it was reveresed with a guy.. ok i said it.. :-) Ok Linda here goes:

Well, it takes 2 to tango. The gal is just as wrong as the guy. If she was to believe this story about soul mate oh well. To go on public tv and say that when u are married with kids is just stoooopit (sic- on purpose)
She should divorce him for being an @ss.

On the flip side, women do this as well, but I find it intriguing that only the male stories get most of the play…

Glory Be: as for your percentage… on 70 and 50 that adds up to 120.. ;-) Stats on cheating will always be skewed why? because the smart ones wont and shouldnt admit it.

Now if love isnt involved and its just a toss in the hay, not that I would do it, BUT I dont think thats cheating.

Cheating is giving your love and heart to someone else other than your spouse.. since he claims this gal is his soul mate, he cheated and there should be no repairing the dynamic. kick him to the curb to be with his soulmate.

Oh and its not cheating if you fantasize about it either no matter how many women’s mags ma say it is and drop the guy that you catch fantasizing about another woman.

Because women do it too.. and in a heart beat if a super hunk/movie star/jock/whatever were to smile and wink, try and tell me you wouldnt get all hot and bothered and think in your head.. if he asks i’ll say yes.. because you know you would.. same if it was reveresed with a guy..

ok i said it.. :-)

]]> By: Linda Lombroso http://generations.lohudblogs.com/2009/07/02/midlife-fling/comment-page-1/#comment-1188 Linda Lombroso Mon, 06 Jul 2009 21:30:51 +0000 http://generations.lohudblogs.com/?p=1146#comment-1188 Steve--Go for it. I'm curious now. Steve—Go for it. I’m curious now.

]]> By: Steve C. http://generations.lohudblogs.com/2009/07/02/midlife-fling/comment-page-1/#comment-1187 Steve C. Mon, 06 Jul 2009 16:41:06 +0000 http://generations.lohudblogs.com/?p=1146#comment-1187 I would say something , but it probably wouldnt be well received. I would say something , but it probably wouldnt be well received.

]]> By: Glory Be http://generations.lohudblogs.com/2009/07/02/midlife-fling/comment-page-1/#comment-1186 Glory Be Sat, 04 Jul 2009 15:29:16 +0000 http://generations.lohudblogs.com/?p=1146#comment-1186 I'm sure his wife was a "soul mate" at one time, too. I think the statistics show that 70% of men cheat on their spouses and 50% of women do. I think soul mates exist, but given the odds, it's likely people don't marry them because they have married before the soul mate was encountered. In other words, soul mates are not easily found and not so easy to recognize. As one who is a divorced middle-aged woman, I think doing things dishonestly renders the "soul mate" title nothing more than a rationalization for the gov's impolitic behavior. I’m sure his wife was a “soul mate” at one time, too. I think the statistics show that 70% of men cheat on their spouses and 50% of women do.

I think soul mates exist, but given the odds, it’s likely people don’t marry them because they have married before the soul mate was encountered. In other words, soul mates are not easily found and not so easy to recognize.

As one who is a divorced middle-aged woman, I think doing things dishonestly renders the “soul mate” title nothing more than a rationalization for the gov’s impolitic behavior.

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