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In the Middle

Coping with aging parents, growing kids and everything in the middle

Disco party Sunday


Those of you old enough to remember disco dancing in the late ’70s will be excited to hear about Sunday’s dance party in White Plains.

The Trammps, famous for “Disco Inferno,” will be playing live at Vintage Bar & Restaurant. They’ll be joined by a few local acts, with recorded music playing in between sets.

Journal News file photo: Vincent DiSalvio

The event runs from 6 to 10 p.m. The Trammps take the stage at 8.

Admission, which includes a drink, is $35, or $30 for groups of four or more.

For info, call Barbara Antes of Westchester Ballroom at 914-773-7773.

Posted by Linda Lombroso on Tuesday, November 9th, 2010 at 5:14 pm
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Help for unemployed women


Westchester Jewish Community Services is holding a series of free workshops for female job-seekers. The workshops are non-sectarian — meaning you don’t have to be Jewish to attend —  but registration is required.

Sessions are held at Temple Beth Abraham, 25 Leroy Avenue, Tarrytown.

Be sure to RSVP to Lenore Rosenbaum at 914-761-0600, ext. 308 or lrosenbaum@wjcs.com.

Here are the details on this week’s workshops in the Women-Helping-Women series:

Thursday, November 4                            9:30 – 11:30 AM

Getting Yourself Organized & Staying Organized Get insights, tips and suggestions for managing your job search and the steps you need to take to land your new job.

Tuesday, November 9 9:30 – 11:30 AM

Landing Your Next Job via Networking Learn why networking is the most effective way to secure your next job and how to have a breakthrough in your ability to create and leverage your own network.

Posted by Linda Lombroso on Tuesday, November 2nd, 2010 at 4:53 pm
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Meet Gaily Sheehy today


There’s still time to sign up for a free wine reception with bestselling author Gail Sheehy, being held today at the Arts Exchange in White Plains.

The event is sponsored by ArtsWestchester and The Club at Briarcliff Manor.

If you go, you’ll also get a free copy of Sheehy’s new book on caregiving (while supplies last), courtesy of The Club at Briarcliff Manor.

Sheehy, best known for  “Passages,” is also the author of a groundbreaking book on menopause, “The Silent Passage.”

Her newest book, which she’ll sign today, is titled  “Passages in Caregiving: Turning Chaos into Confidence.”

Today’s event runs from 4:30 to 6 p.m. at the Arts Exchange, 31 Mamaroneck Ave., White Plains.

RSVP to Shelley Lotter at 914-320-4168.

Posted by Linda Lombroso on Wednesday, October 27th, 2010 at 12:59 pm
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Worst birthday?


A good friend turned 55 a few days ago. When I called to wish her a happy birthday, her mood was less than celebratory. “It’s a bad one,” she said. “Way worse than 40 or 50.”

I know everybody says, at this age especially, we should be happy that we’re healthy and thriving. Of course I agree with that. But I do know that certain birthdays sting more than others.

Journal News file photo: Elizabeth Orozco

Which birthday so far has been your worst in terms of accepting your new age?

Posted by Linda Lombroso on Tuesday, October 26th, 2010 at 5:02 pm
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Peace of mind


A new device worn on the wrist may offer peace of mind to families of those with dementia or Alzheimer’s and a tendency to wander.

The device, called EmSeeQ, is a bracelet that can transmit a signal.

Once you purchase the device, you sign up for a subscription service. Then, if the wearer wanders away, you activate the device remotely and it works in coordination with emergency responders.

Another plus? One style of the bracelet requires two hands to remove, which ensures that the wearer cannot take it off.

For information, call EmFinders at 972.439.1960

Posted by Linda Lombroso on Wednesday, October 20th, 2010 at 1:41 pm
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Drink up!


First we hear that coffee is good for you. Then we’re encouraged to cut back on caffeine. Now, in a recent interview with Katie Couric, Jean Carper, author of “100 Simple Things You Can Do to Prevent Alzheimer’s,” says that caffeine might actually “wash away” the bad stuff in the brain that could lead to Alzheimer’s!

Journal News file photo: Carucha Meuse

Here’s a clip from the interview.

Posted by Linda Lombroso on Wednesday, October 13th, 2010 at 5:50 pm
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Save your relationship!


No matter how long you’ve been married or involved in a relationship, you’ll benefit from the wisdom of  Laurie Puhn, a Harvard-trained family law attorney and couples mediator who lives in Edgemont.

Her new book, “Fight Less, Love More: 5-Minute Conversations to Change Your Relationship without Blowing Up or Giving In,’‘ comes out next week.

Puhn will also be among the speakers appearing at MORE magazine’s Reinvention Convention coming up in Manhattan Oct. 18.

I interviewed Puhn this afternoon for a story to appear in the Life & Style section.

But if you’re eager to get a head start on improving your relationship and can’t wait until the story comes out, here’s a word of advice: Start being nice to your partner and you’ll see how quickly it has an impact.

It’s easy to get into a cycle of bickering and silent treatments. Believe me. I know.

But since I tried a few of the tips from Puhn’s book, things have honestly improved.

I told my husband he was very thoughtful when he invited my mother to accompany us on a trip to Chicago. I thanked him repeatedly for taking the dog to the vet. And I complimented him on his skills as a father just this morning.

He looks stunned every time I praise him. And we haven’t had an argument in a few days. That’s progress, right?

Here’s the book, available Oct. 12.

Posted by Linda Lombroso on Wednesday, October 6th, 2010 at 5:40 pm
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Sandwich generation


If you’ve been making your kids’ lunches as long as I have, it’s probably the kind of thing you could do in your sleep.

Well, it’s good somebody was paying attention the morning a father in England was preparing his children’s school lunches.

Here’s what he found inside the loaf of bread:

AP Photo/Cherwell District Council/PA

Apparently, the man felt ill when he discovered the dead mouse — and even sicker when he realized the tail was missing and probably had ended up already eaten in a previous sandwich.

This takes me back to my own childhood, when my mother bit into a store-bought cookie and noticed half a dead cockroach baked into the dough. She’d swallowed the other half.

Here’s a link to the story from CBS News. Bon appetit!

Posted by Linda Lombroso on Wednesday, September 29th, 2010 at 2:41 pm
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Worth reading


Feel like you’re muddling through midlife alone? You won’t once you read Katrina Kenison’s “The Gift of an Ordinary Day: A Mother’s Memoir,” coming out in paperback Sept. 30.

The book is being released with the 10-year-anniversary reissue of “Mitten Strings for God: Reflections for Mothers in a Hurry.” Both are published by Grand Central Publishing; they’re $13.99 each.

For those of us whose empty nest looms closer, reading Kenison’s memoir feels as if you’ve finally found a friend who understands.

Although I’d recognized Kenison’s name from the cover of the short story anthology series she edited for years (from 1990-2006, she was the editor of “The Best American Short Stories”), I’d never read any of her writing.

It’s hard to write about motherhood without getting annoying and sappy. Kenison pulls it off brilliantly.

For more information about the author, go to www.katrinakenison.com

Posted by Linda Lombroso on Friday, September 24th, 2010 at 4:35 pm
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Twilight of your career?


Did any of you see the front-page story in yesterday’s New York Times on over-50 workers who are unemployed?

The story featured interviews with people 50 and over who had been laid off and were having great difficulty even getting responses to their resumes.

Here’s a link to the story.

Although all this is quite disturbing, what bothered me too was a line about these people being in the twilight of their careers.

I’d always liked twilight. I don’t like it anymore.

Posted by Linda Lombroso on Tuesday, September 21st, 2010 at 4:50 pm
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About this blog

We've been called "the sandwich generation" and with good reason. Most of today's baby boomers (born between 1946 and 1964) are dealing with aging parents and college-age kids -- or starting again as empty nesters, adapting to a new life without children at home.

In the Middle will address a variety of topics, including caring for aging parents (medical, ethical, emotional and financial issues) and caring for parents long-distance (what do we do when parents live out of state, or are citizens of another country and we can't bring them to the U.S. for medical care?).

It will also cover the way we deal with the financial and emotional demands of our teenage and young-adult children. Middle age also presents its own "crises": How do we handle that first mailing from AARP? Preventive health screenings (like colonoscopies and bone-density tests)? What are the dating options for those who find themselves single in middle age?

In the Middle will explore all these topics and more, as we share resources and learn from each other's experiences.

About the author
Linda Lombroso Baby boomer Linda Lombroso was born in Queens and grew up in Port Washington. She began her journalism career at New York Magazine and Rolling Stone, and came back to the field after spending 10 years as a stay-at-home mother. Linda joined The Journal News in 1997 and has been a Life & Style writer since 2000. She has three children.

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